I just received an email from a client.
“I’ve been thinking of emailing you to reconnect, but my closet has returned to being disorganized, and I’m too embarrassed to have you see it.”
Is that you?
Or maybe this is you:
“I’d love to make some changes with my wardrobe, but I just don’t know where to begin. I’m not really even sure what the problem is, I just know there IS a problem.”
Yes, it can be overwhelming. And confusing. And embarrassing. How did we let our closet get out of control like that? How did we wind up with hundreds of pieces of clothing that we never wear? How did it happen that we dislike everything about the way we look?
If I had the power to broadcast one single message to every American woman, it would be this: Please stop with the negative self-talk. Besides it’s not just that it’s so hurtful, but it perpetuates itself!
And not only that. Stop imagining that everyone else has their act together, and you are alone in struggling with your image (or other aspects of your life).
Instead, how about:
- Understand that anyone who you might solicit help from should be, first and foremost, someone who can deliver constructive feedback gently and kindly. If she isn’t, you don’t want to work with her. It’s really that simple.
- Recognize that most people struggle with their image (and many other parts of their life). This is why there are personal chefs, personal organizers, personal assistants, housekeepers, decorators, and image consultants (and many more kinds of helpers). It’s completely fine to ask for and get help, and
- With your image specifically, pick a place to start, any place. It doesn’t matter what, just do one thing. Pick your clothes up off the floor. Throw out 9 no-brainer things you can get rid of right now. Ask a professional for a phone consultation. Take a step in the right direction. You won’t regret it, I promise. 🙂
(Ketura Persellin is an image consultant, public speaker, and writer in Washington, DC, and surrounding suburbs. Please contact her for a complimentary phone consultation.)