It does NOT feel good to be stuck in a rut.
I should know. I was there for a long, long time.
There were plenty of changes that went on in my life during that time. I had my kids and moved a couple times, including to a new city.
But I only saw myself in one way. I only had one story about myself, and it wasn’t a positive one, or one that did any good for me. It was destructive, in fact, and led to a negative spiral of doubt.
And all of that showed up in my clothes, my energy, my presence. I radiated “stuck.”
I wore clothes that suited me as a single graduate student living in LA (hand-painted flowy cotton dresses) but not a new employee at a communications company in a big city or as the mom of toddlers.
I looked like what I was: a woman stuck in a rut.
I wouldn’t have been able to get out of that on my own, because I could only see myself in the way that I saw myself. (If that makes sense. 🙂
It took someone saying to me: Hey, what if you tried this instead? (“This”: a better bra, a few highlights, new glasses). I tried those things and felt completely transformed.
Creating a cycle of good
It was magical.
I felt like a new person and then I started to ACT like a new person! It was a cycle of good in my life, as I got unstuck and that led to more change, which in turn led to greater transformation.
I’m not gonna lie. The journey didn’t take just a day or two. In fact, it’s still ongoing (and I hope it remains that way permanently). But the shift from stuck to confident was faster than that, and the switch was flipped just as soon as I made one small change. That’s it—one small change was all it took to get me out of that rut and into a more positive and receptive state of mind.
So: What’s one change YOU could make that would flip that switch for you? Maybe it’s exercise. Maybe it’s a new haircut or some small changes to what you eat that leave you with more energy.
Whatever it is for you, I hope you make that change soon.
Leave a comment and let me know your thoughts—I love hearing from you!
(Ketura Persellin is an image and style consultant in Washington, DC. Please email her at Ketura at JoyfulCloset.com to schedule a complimentary get-acquainted session.)