When life changes, what we want and need changes, too.
Are you dying for something out of life that you’re not getting right now?
In my role as a stylist, I listen closely to what women want, and I hear lots of examples of unmet needs—sometimes ones women have had for decades.
Here are some things I hear:
- I want to be noticed.
- I want to be appreciated.
- I want to be visible.
- I want to feel attractive.
- I want to feel optimistic about getting older.
- I want to be respected.
- I want feel confident about how I present myself.
- I want to understand myself so I can put my best self forward.
As women, we often give up on our own needs and rush in to help others take care of their needs.
But that’s not usually what’s best for us.
One of the most gratifying things about being a stylist is having the privilege of helping women focus on themselves. With my stylist tools — including understanding the meaning of clothes, putting looks together for people to match their lifestyle and goals, using clothes and accessories to help tell the stories of the current chapter women are living in — I can help women meet those very core needs.
What do you YOU need?
Sometimes we don’t even KNOW what we need.
To uncover what YOU need, fill in the blank in these statements with the very first thing that comes to mind:
- If I could make life more manageable day to day, I’d have (fill in the blank).
- If I were being nicer to myself, these are the things I’d do to take better care of myself. (Start making your list.)
- To be fully engaged in my life, I need (fill in the blank.)
- I see other people doing this and I’d like to do it too. (What are the things you see that you want? Make your list.)
When I’m working with a client, sometimes our conversation veers into heavier topics like this. And these are some of the things they say. Do they resonate with you?
- Life would be more manageable if I were free of clutter.
- If I were being kind to myself, I’d stop beating myself up and do something to move toward my goals instead. I don’t want to struggle any more.
- To be all in in my life, I’d have go-to outfits for everything I’ve got going on.
- I see other people having fun with clothes, and I want to be able to do that, too!
Lately I’ve found myself saying to other people (and to myself) that we don’t get a dress rehearsal in life. This is your one big chance. So do it like you mean it, like you want to deep down inside. Show up big (if that’s what you want). Say what’s on your mind. Put your energy into YOU because, as hackneyed as it sounds, you deserve it.
Of course, it can be easier to make changes in your life when you’ve got some accountability and support. That could be your bestie or your mom/sister/cousin. Or, of course, you can bring in a pro. 🙂 I’d love to help you move closer toward your dreams and goals.
(Ketura Persellin is a stylist and speaker in Washington, DC, and surrounding suburbs. Contact her for a complimentary discover session.)